Ask E. Jean – How to Cope When Your Ex Get’s Engaged

Ask E. Jean – How to Cope When Your Ex Get’s Engaged

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Dear E. Jean: Last year I met an adorable fellow at a bar. One thing led to another, and we ended up going home together that night. We saw each other off and on for several weeks, then he dumped me, saying I was too young for him. I'm 24. He's 31. Six months later, he started dating a phony, obnoxious, downright dim-witted woman I work with. (We work in TV.) She was with me the night I met him! I had a hard time dealing with them being together, seeing as how he broke my heart, but I managed to function at work. Well, guess what, E. Jean? That bitch got engaged to him! Now it's impossible for me to pretend that they don't exist as she is wagging…
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Meeting Husband’s Mistress – E. Jean Advice on Dealing With Husband’s Infidelity

Meeting Husband’s Mistress – E. Jean Advice on Dealing With Husband’s Infidelity

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Dear E. Jean: My husband has admitted to having an affair, but he does not want a divorce.I'm very curious about the "other woman." My husband has answered "all questions"—claimed it was only sex, etc. I just need to meet her face-to-face and find out if hubby is telling the truth about it being over. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below I'm not looking to hurt her, scream at her, or rant and rave. I just want to meet her, ask about their affair, and put it behind me. Then I can decide whether or not to leave my husband. —I Want a Powwow Miss Powwow, You Genius! If this isn't the juiciest idea to appear in the Ask Eeee column in years, I'll run a mile in five-inch heels.I've always…
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My Boyfriend Never Compliments My Appearance

My Boyfriend Never Compliments My Appearance

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Dear E. Jean: Next to my boyfriend (who is overweight, balding, and mopey), I look like Halle Berry. Every chance I get, I tell him how smart, reliable, and honorable he is. And I mean every word of it—at his core, he is a very good man with many fine qualities. But he never returns the compliment. I've told him time and time again how important it is to me to hear he likes the way I look. He (finally!) mustered "I like your pants...." When pushed, he added: "You look fine." Advertisement - Continue Reading Below E. Jean, frankly, I look great. He tells me he loves me and that I'm the most important person in his life. This is lovely to hear, but his lack of enthusiasm is…
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Ask E. Jean: Looking for a Compliment

Ask E. Jean: Looking for a Compliment

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Dear E. Jean: Next to my boyfriend (who is overweight, balding, and mopey), I look like Halle Berry. Every chance I get, I tell him how smart, reliable, and honorable he is. And I mean every word of it—at his core, he is a very good man with many fine qualities. But he never returns the compliment. I've told him time and time again how important it is to me to hear he likes the way I look. He (finally!) mustered "I like your pants...." When pushed, he added: "You look fine." Advertisement - Continue Reading Below E. Jean, frankly, I look great. He tells me he loves me and that I'm the most important person in his life. This is lovely to hear, but his lack of enthusiasm is…
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When to Not Talk About Your Feelings

When to Not Talk About Your Feelings

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Dear E. Jean: My boyfriend of three months just moved to a new place. When I visited, I commented on all the boxes everywhere, and he laughed and pointed out a vibrator on his coffee table. I was surprised and asked if he was making a joke. He wasn't. I asked where it came from, and he said it was his ex-fiancée's! Then he quickly added that it had been "cleaned and sterilized and is still fully operational." Advertisement - Continue Reading Below I was flabbergasted. I tried to discuss the issue, but he just kept laughing it off. The rest of the evening, I struggled to push my feelings aside, but I completely broke down when I got home. I called the next morning to explain in a very…
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Is it Possible to Get Closure After an Affair?

Is it Possible to Get Closure After an Affair?

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Dear E. Jean: I'm a well-known figure in the business world, with a television show in the works, so my reputation is precious to me. I am striking. I am fabulous. I have star power. But I'm married to someone who resents my professional success. Three months ago a man swept me off my feet, and we began an affair. Like me, he's married with children. He proposed immediately—our plan was to divorce our spouses and marry each other. However, my husband found out about it and outed us to my lover's wife. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below She told the gossips in our tightly knit community that I "stalked" and "seduced" her husband. By now everyone has heard this version and believes it: I'm the evil temptress! I'm the…
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Cookies Are Ruining My Relationship

Cookies Are Ruining My Relationship

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These are dark times for human-device relations. Nosey robot assistants like Alexa and Siri are eavesdropping on us and our cookies—the small pieces of data that collect our preferences and cater advertisements to us—are messing with us. Like that time a pair of sold-out shoes I desperately wanted haunted me across the web for a month. But today we’re here to talk about a different data dilemma: the mildly embarrassing, occasionally grief-inducing toll that personalized ads can take on human-human relationships. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below If you’ve ever searched for an engagement ring, a present for a significant other, tacky lingerie, or any other incognito-window-worthy search on Google, you’ve probably been served with an ad for something you didn't end up buying (but that Jeff Bezos and Larry Page…
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I’m in Love With Three Women

I’m in Love With Three Women

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Dear E. Jean: I'm a guy in love with three women. First, there's my second ex-wife. We had the greatest sex and tons of fun, but we also fought over everything and nothing. She's living with a guy, but she recently confessed that she's not happy, that I still do it for her, and that she'd like to "try again." And let me say, she's the best-looking woman I've ever been with. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below My current girlfriend can be a serious ballbuster, but the sex is damn near mind-blowing, and I think it might get even better. Though she's not as educated as I am, I enjoy her company.Then there's my ex-girlfriend—the most intense relationship I've ever experienced in my life. She's brilliant, well educated, and amazing,…
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Secretive Boyfriend – E Jean Advice on Shady Private Boyfriend

Secretive Boyfriend – E Jean Advice on Shady Private Boyfriend

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Dear E. Jean: I've been dating a boy for seven months and am head over heels in love. Very early in our relationship, he mentioned he had a fiancée who died unexpectedly after being with him for four years. He will not answer any questions about the dead fiancée because he said it would be too painful for me (huh?). He's secretive about everything. He has a number of aliases, won't share his e-mail address, phone numbers, etc., and has no close friends or family. And now there are four years of his life about which I can't ask any questions. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below My friends and family all think I'm going to wind up in a body bag. But I think his fiancé's death was so painful,…
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Ex-Boyfriend Reconciliation – E. Jean Advice on Meeting Up With Ex

Ex-Boyfriend Reconciliation – E. Jean Advice on Meeting Up With Ex

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Dear E. Jean: I'm a pretty, smart girl who's gone through shattering, horrible, tragic heartbreak because of a man I absolutely adored. After I spent half a year getting to know him, then a year and a half in the gawdawfullest part of the South trying to develop a relationship with him, he unceremoniously dumped me. I came to my senses, moved back to New York, and began a new career. My problem? He is flying in for business and has asked me to dinner. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below I've thought endlessly about what I'm going to wear, revved up the diet and exercise, imagined all sorts of ridiculously expensive restaurants he might invite me to, but I (honestly!) don't indulge any grand fantasy of him saying: "I was…
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